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　　谢谢lydia，委屈是一时的情绪，过后再想，就觉得没必要辩那么分明；不再强辩，也就不会不开心。争来争去，不外是认为自己全对，别人全错；但是别人何尝不是这样认为呢？其实根本不关乎谁对谁错，无非是他们有他们的道理，我们有我们的立场。近来总是再想，要学会示弱，示弱的人未必就弱，逞强的一定不强，不过遇到事情当前，总是做不太到。慢慢会好吧。

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　　我在犹豫，是不是要养一只猫。

　　一直想要拥有一只猫，但也一直有太多的理由不该养猫。喜欢猫、觉得它们可爱是毋庸置疑，但同时又头疼它们锋利的爪与牙，喜欢收集“战利品”尾巴耳朵的习惯，柔软的毛发里藏满寄生虫的嫌疑，以及春天时歇斯底里的叫与闹。

　　一个动物医学专业的朋友告诉我这些都不是问题，只需先做一些准备，譬如剪掉指甲、拔掉牙、做一次全面的除虫，以及绝育手术。

　　然而，这不是太可怕了吗？即便不从人道的角度考虑，经过种种人工处理的猫咪，不再抓、不再咬，甚至对异性都不再发生兴趣，即便是清洁了，即便是温驯了，它还是猫咪吗？它不过变成一只只懂吃与睡，目光呆板、行为僵硬的小怪物。它不再可爱了。

　　原来，有些东西，强行改掉它令我们头疼的毛病，恰恰也破坏了我们宝贝它的特质。

　　

bianca

The other day when I’m chatting with a friend, he mentioned that more and more guys were choosing to end a relationship by making a phone call or even sending a message instead of the old-fashioned way of meeting the girl in person and ordering her maybe a cup of skinny latte to ease the pain afterwards, which was, quoted him, the more “romantic” way.

However, is there really a way to break up with somebody that can be described as “romantic”?

Let’s picture this, a guy, Tim, took his girlfriend, Betty, out to a fancy French restaurant where there was candle lighting and violin playing and everything, and he ordered champagne and stuff. The food tasted great, ambience was joyful, out of blue, Tim got down on one knee, looked straightly deep into Betty’s eyes and said: “ Betty, we had tons of funs these days, I’ve been doing some thinking,” pulling out a ring from his pocket, hopefully that it was a Tiffany, Tim continued, “Betty, do you like this ring?”

Well, isn’t that just an “aww” moment?

The girl sniffled, put one hand on her chest and responded, “It’s amazing, of course I like it, I absolutely love it, oh, Tim.” Then she would burst into happy tears looking back the days she shared together with her expectant fiancé, but not so fast, girl.

Let’s hear Tim out first: “Glad you do. I bought it for Stephanie. I’m going to purpose to her later, oh, God, I’m nervous.” sign relieved, “B.t.w, I’m here to break up with you.”

Then, Betty, it was time for you to start the water work.

Every single factor that can be counted as romantic included though, the scene is not so pretty, is it? Well, situation can get even uglier by Tim’s putting the ring away, getting up, leaving and saying: “One more thing I should mention, since I’m saving up to pay the installment for this extremely expensive ring, the dinner is on you.”

I guess now we all get the gist that it’s not going to be romantic whatsoever, cause it is breakup we are talking about, an occasion that is supposed to be filled with crying, quarrelling, cursing, slapping and dropping broken glasses.

All the incidents above which may happen during the meet-in-person one may have contributed to the increasingly significant use of electronic device in break-ups. In fact, the friend I mentioned earlier suggested that most guys chose the phoning, texting or even emailing over actually meeting the girl were out of the reason that they didn’t know how to “survive” the angry, sobbing, screaming girl, that they wanted neither to get slapped over face nor to be hit by a mug that was thrown at them, that they just didn’t want to get hurt.

Guys, while that is totally understandable, it is just the wussiest thing a man could ever say as well. If you want to break up with a girl, fine, at least do her the courtesy of meeting her in person and allowing her throwing at least one item at you. Honestly, after all that she’s been through, after all that she’s given to you, after all that she’s put up with you, doesn’t she just deserve a chance to blowing the anger by dumping something at you and hurting you a little bit? Let’s face it; she herself is being dumped and getting much more severely traumatized in the mean time.

bianca

My old sweater.

It's soft, fluffy and comfortable, I love it to bits. But it no longer fits me. I've grown out of it. It's disappointing, but I can accept that.

lydia_123

亲爱的摇摇，好久不见了！最近论坛挺冷清的，看到你我好开心~O(∩_∩)O~P.S.33楼的英文文章是亲自己写的吗？大概读了一遍，文章讨论的话题耐人寻味~隐约觉得，分手时男生当面把女生约出来说，也是一种对女生的尊重吧。不过，比起手机短信或电话，当面告诉女生这个消息，对女生的打击会不会更大？当然，不论采用哪种方式告诉女生，都会给对方带来伤害，这是难以避免的。

bianca

lydia_123 发表于 2014-11-10 18:51
亲爱的摇摇，好久不见了！最近论坛挺冷清的，看到你我好开心~O(∩_∩)O~P.S.33楼的英文文章是亲自己写的吗 ...

哈哈，四五年前写来逗趣的东西。的确。都说分手了，还有什么伤害不伤害呢。


bianca 于 2014-11-17 16:19:02 补充以下内容

bianca 发表于 2014-11-17 16:18
哈哈，四五年前写来逗趣的东西。的确。都说分手了，还有什么伤害不伤害呢。
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另问亲爱的萱萱好，真得好久不见了。